There are many young people who are extremely attractive. Many are talented and/or gifted. Some have “lots of money”, “off the hook rides”, and always dress to impress. Whatever the traits may be, they’re usually trivial to our biggest question: “Will we wait in confirmation from God?”
A survey was conducted on this similar topic. The exact question was the following: Do you believe it is important for God to confirm your companion and why? The majority (approx. 95%) responded with an abrupt “YES”. The most popular responses are listed below:
* It is important to have God’s blessing and approval. This way I know that if things go wrong in the marriage, they will work out for the best because God ordained the marriage”.
* I have a ministry and I need to be certain that whoever is by my side will not bring me down but help me, and best of all, both be compatible to each others ministries”
* I want it to be the right timing and only God knows. I don’t want to suffer the consequences of not waiting.”
* I know of people who thought they married an angel but once they were behind closed doors, it was as if their partner had been transformed into a total stranger. God knows us best and knows who our partners are, what better than to have God confirm and save us from future regrets and unpleasant surprises”
If this is true, that the majority of our young people want God to bless and confirm their time of courtship before they tie the not, why is it that many do NOT wait? I am pretty certain that we can all answer this question. Many of us make decisions after our own desires which lead us to depend more on our flesh rather than our God.
For example, let’s look at the following passage that will help to broaden our understanding.
Genesis 6:1-3
Now it came about, when men began to multiply on the face of the land, and daughters were born to them, that the sons of God saw that the daughters of men were beautiful; and they took wives for themselves, whomever they chose. Then the Lord said, “My Spirit shall not strive with man forever, because he also is flesh; nevertheless his days shall be one hundred and twenty years.”
Since the beginning of time, God has always made a distinction of who His children are and who are not. God was disappointed with His children who had made faulty decisions for choosing their wives. It is clear in this passage that God does not want us to choose for ourselves, God needs to be a BIG part in our determination as to who we’ll eventually marry.
Let’s break down the following line:
“the sons of God saw that the daughters of men were beautiful; and they took wives for them selves, whomever they chose.”
“WERE BEAUTIFUL”
Many of us have said “oh, he/she blinded me with his/her beauty” Just as beauty became their focal point, it has also become the focal point of many Christian youth. Beauty blinded their understanding and the direction of God’s will. They were not careful enough to govern what they saw. Some people say “I couldn’t help it”. The reason why many cannot control their desires, is because they continue to gaze and stare at what they shouldn’t be, whether in a magazine, computer, or on the street. All of this places us in great danger of not listening to God’s instructions.
“THEY TOOK WIVES FOR THEMSELVES”
Notice in the verse that once beauty became their focal point, then this is what their decision of life were made upon. They lost their ability to reason. The flesh took control, and they NEVER got it back. It is important to understand that marriage is a binding agreement between two people that should never be broken; this is if you fear and want to obey God. They were enticed by the beauty of these women and were sadly surprised with the deadly consequences of their choices.
After reviewing these scriptures, the question remains: will we wait on God or will we wing it and whatever comes about our decision comes? I am certain that there is not one person who would like to live the next half a decade married to someone who will be more of a burden than a blessing. This is usually why marriages do not last because we tend to marry for the wrong reasons instead of looking for guidance from God.
Good point.
I have a question however. Of course, most believers will say “It’s best to wait for direction from God!!”. But the question people need answering to is this: “How do we know when God says yes?” Some get amazing confirmations from a meal to a scripture to even a vision or a direct, audible word. But for many of those out there, how did they know? I was searching online and am utterly amazed at how few ‘successfully married’ believers share how they knew who their partners were. It saddens me greatly. If the older intend to prevent the youth from making an error, then maybe it is time they shared their experiences on how things were confirmed to them. Many people ask God about their partners and to them He seems silent. As a result, they just go with their flesh. I know my Daddy, if He seemed silent, it is either He was setting us up to receive the answer or He kept trying to reach us but we didn’t know how to listen….
Excellent post there btw.
In Love,
DK
God Bless You DK,
Thanks for your comment. Very good question. I do agree that many more testimonials should be shared with the younger crowd. The youth need real life examples of individuals who listened to the Lords voice.
To answer your question, I believe that not everyone will have the same experiences when it comes to knowing if God is approving the relationship or not. The Word of God says “draw near to me and I will draw near to you”. Therefore, I know that no matter how you receive the confirmation, when you have an intimate relationship with God, you will know with certainty if God is in the midst of it or not. Be it by the Spirit of God speaking to your spirit directly or as drastic as sending a prophet to spell out both of your names and join you two together without having a clue of who you were. Our Father knows exactly how to reach us and grasp our attention. And just as you mentioned, sometimes we just don’t want to listen.
We are all different and have a different calling and God will intervene accordingly but what is similar is that God is interested in every area of our lives no matter how insignificant or significant it may seem. How much more in a pact that is made before Him “till death do us part”.
Be Blessed,
Yeisie